What A Woman Wants – Hip Hop Influence on Relationships


So today I was on +Instagram and was looking at +Wiz Khalifa ‘s wife, Amber Rose’s pregnant pics. To me, she comes off to be such a classy female who honestly wouldn’t go for a man who promotes recreational, illegal smoking. I couldn’t help but imagine what an interview with her would be like, I thought about the strategical questions to ask and the calculated responses I may get, as I do many people. My curiosity would consist of questions like….


-What makes you feel Wiz is your soul mate?

 -Is Wiz aloud to smoke in the house?
-Are you around him when he smokes?
-Do you ever worry about his health in the future?
-What do you perceive his image to be? Whats a misconception about him that the rest of the world sees?
-What qualities do you hope your son take from Wiz? Why is that important to you?
-When the baby is born, what is the most recognizable scent it will have of it’s father?
-What age will the baby be aloud to smoke weed?

The truth is these are questions she is probably asking herself, and if she isn’t  she should be, because she will find the answers soon enough. Why is it that we refuse to ask questions? We live on an impulse and ignore our heart speaking to our conscious. The young generation who follow the celebrities in hip hop, are being taught to have the same lack of thought.

My younger teenage cousin was singing a song in our car ride to the store, and when I asked for an explanation of the message, she shrugged. Maybe she was lying and maybe not, but she made a choice at that moment, to ignore the thought process of her consciousness. If she can’t or doesn’t care to explain it, why does the music feed her enjoyment? My explanation – The subconscious is being groomed into enjoying lyrics that she is ignorant to. And with enjoyment can lead to acting out on a story she had no true relation or relevance with.

A wise person once said:

“Watch your thoughts, they become words;

watch your words, they become actions;

watch your actions, they become habits;

watch your habits, they become character;

watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

Why are music lines such as, “I sweat no bitches, I sweat out weaves,” said by rapper Wale, a catchy line that women choose to sing along with? Is this what we want? To embrace and celebrate a man who thinks correlates woman to bitches, and only sees her value under the covers when her weave is sweated out? We blame the musical beat for the real reasoning of entertainment, but this is precisely how the enemy tricks the subconscious mind into thinking that the action is appropriate. Many fans sing along with lyrics, they have no real interest in those lyrics are no different. We don’t choose to break down what were repeating, and essentially reciting into the universe…

I sweat no bitches ….. I don’t care about females

I sweat out weaves ….. I only care to fuck them. 

AKA: If they aint fuckin I dont fuck with em’.

The enemy wants us to fall so in love with the beat, the sexy rapper, and of course the money he SAYS he has so that we value that attraction and ignore the words were saying. BUT, what we miss in the equation is the overall trick: as we fill our mind with these seemingly “meaningless” words, we are subconsciously remembering them, then eventually acting them out, slowly but surely, day to day. Anything you tell your mind will eventually come to light.


Is my destiny to become a bitch who isn’t good for nothing but fucking?

#TheTruth: Some females won’t dare look into the mirror and ask this question, or worse, they don’t understand the depth and importance in the questioning. Maybe its because they are insecure or don’t have the courage to actually stop and size themselves up with an answer. Then theres always the female who answers the question in all honesty, but goes on to ignore it and keep doing what her man wants, thinking he’s different or things will get better.

No boo boo! Take it from Maya Angelo,

“when someone shows you who they are, believe them” 

We can’t control other’s vision for themselves, but we can focus on bettering our own lives. Here’s a start:




An old friend of mines posted a status, saying that she wished she listened to the voice in her head sometimes…

My reply:

“lol same here! it took 22 years and a fed up broken heart… then i did alot of reading/research on relationships and love and it helped me understand the importance of that voice. Its funny cause I would always think of the voice I ignored after the fact lol. Then I’m pissed at myself, and theres no one else to blame but me. You are your worst enemy and best friend. BIG LESSON: NObody can watch out for you/have your back like you can! …. People break promises but not when its to yourself and theres no better feeling than being proud of yourself!”